Sunday, August 14, 2016

August 15: A Double Celebration

We all had weekend duties on April 19th. The Family Practice residents (including me) and Bob Amaya, the ICU nurse, were all were having our late Easter lunch. The floors were quiet so we had a little bit more time to enjoy our food and socialize. We all were hysterically laughing because Bob went over to the Easter display, got a dyed Easter egg and then peeled and ate it. (it was about a week old)
Midday was the usual time that the OOD’s (Officer of the Day) did their hospital rounds. He poured himself coffee and approached our table. I noticed right away that he wearing his summer white uniform, with a very polished gold- plated belt buckle, and shiny black shoes. Bob introduced all of us to Lt JG Charles Cambus. That evening, after dinner, the lieutenant and I spend several hours talking.
We got married four months after we met. After that weekend duty, Costa (and yes, I called him that even then) and I got to know each other better. He wanted to take me to NJ to meet his family. My family, being more conservative, did not think it was proper for a single girl to travel with a guy to meet his family. In mid-May, Costa and I became engaged. He knew that if his tour of duty ended, it would be difficult to go back to the Philippines. Ours was a unique courtship. We wrote each other mini notes on paper table napkins. (yes, I still have them.) We were required to attend the marriage preparation workshop, Navy and religious) People in the hospital had doubts and questions of my true intentions. We were married on August 15, 1987, and that was 29 years ago. Yes, the lieutenant and I!
We have weaved and continue to weave many, many memories and milestones. Seventeen years hence, in August 2004, I received a phone call from the Bishop Savas Zembillas, the Chancellor of the Archdiocese at that time (now the Metropolitan of the Pittsburg Metropolis) telling me that Costa was going to be ordained on the 15th of the month. I remember where I was at that time. I was less than a mile from home. He asked if I was seated, so I stopped at the CVS parking lot on Park Hill Plaza in Fitchburg to listen to what he was going to say. The next two weeks after that was a whirlwind. It was a beautiful experience, his ordination into the diaconate. Twelve years ago, I witnessed Costa’s desire to be a a member of the clergy, as he held the silver pitcher and bowl for almost the entire duration of the hierarchical liturgy, with his head veiled by a pure white towel. (The Metropolitan used the water to wash his hands before preparing the gifts for communion.) I saw his humility and seriousness in what he was going to be after that day.
This August 15th, we celebrate two precious milestones: our marriage and his ordination. In retrospect, I now understand why we were married the day we were married. The questions were answered. God had a special plan for both of us: for him to be a priest and for me to be a presvytera. What very honorable, yet very humbling roles. We couldn’t do it without God being in our lives. He is the true Author.
Our First Dance; August 15, 1987
First Liturgy, September 2004: Holy Trinity Church in Fitchburg



During Marianne and Richard's Wedding, July 2, 2016











Friday, August 14, 2015

Through the Years: Happy 28th!

Marriage Advice
Jane Wells (1886)

Let your love be stronger than your hate and anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break. Believe the best rather than the worst.
People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.
Please hand this down to your children and your children's children.











Happy 28th year anniversary to my sunshine, my friend, and my love,
Compassionate
Obliging
Sentimental
Tolerant
Appreciative

Friday, March 27, 2015

Elder Paisios of Mount Athos Spiritual Counsels on Family Life

Patience Fills a Person with Grace
Geronda, how does one handle an angry person?
-   With patience!
-   What if you do not have any?
-   Go and buy some; they sell it at the stores! Look, when someone is steaming with anger, no matter what you say, it will come to nothing. It is better to keep quiet and say the Jesus Prayer. With prayer, he’ll calm down, and you can communicate with him. You see, even fishermen don’t go fishing unless the sea is calm; they wait patiently for the storm to pass

Geronda, what makes people so impatient?
- Their abundant...inner peace! God has hung the salvation of man on the hook of patience. The Gospel says, "But he that endureth to the end shall be saved." (Matthew 10:22)
This is why He presents hardships and various trials- so that people will develop the virtue of patience.

From Chapter Two: With Patience the Family is Saved 
Volume Four: Family Life
Elder Paisios of Mount Athos Spiritual Counsels IV



Sunday, February 1, 2015

One Year Hence...Here I am Now


It was Saturday, February 1, 2014 when I felt a lump on my left breast. The following days were a blur…uncertainties until I went to the Marlborough Imaging Center in Southborough on February 10th. When the radiologist performed an ultrasound and told me, he needed to do a biopsy. That made me feel very scared. I had nobody with me and I felt myself shiver. 

        “Dear God,” I prayed.
“Please help me, give me courage to face this ordeal. I cannot do it alone.”

Through the tests and the many consultations I had with the team of oncologists and hospital staff, I remained calm. Thank God I had my family with me. Deep inside, though, I felt nervous. The Jesus Prayer kept me strong and determined. It kept me company. I was determined to fight the battle.

Surgery- done;  the first phase.
Radiation treatment for 33 days- done; the second phase.
Oral medication: The five year regimen- two and a half years of Tamoxifen, followed by two and a half years with another medication- So far, 7 months done. This third phase is still ongoing.


I worked through the whole radiation treatment. I took an Incomplete on the two courses I was enrolled in that Spring semester. At first, I was timid to tell others about my ordeal. That changed when I realized that I needed others to pray for me, as well. 

How have I been since last year?

Despite some side effects that the medications give me, I am fine. I’ve learned to accept them as part of the treatment. I enjoy working…working with my co-teachers that have become good friends and an excellent support system. I love teaching the students, who never fail to make me laugh every day. But most of all, through my illness, my family bonds have been strengthened even more. I thank God that I am well again.
Dana, Lauren, and Peggy


 
Mother and Daughter

 
With my Kuya, Bong
      
With my Diko  (Oscar)

Family Picture, Christmas, 2014
At School for School Spirit Week




Friday, January 2, 2015

You, O Lord, are My Strength

What makes me keep on believing?
When I am weakened by struggles,
Yet, as much as I am beaten, I will not quit. 
Help me to get up, help me to start again. 
Extend Your Hand and lift me up,
For You, O Lord, are my strength.

Restless is my heart.
I long to feel your presence,
Where are You, O Lord?
I call on You to hear me,
I know that You listen,
I have no doubt that You will answer my prayers,
Let me understand Your words, O Lord.



 

1 Chronicles 16:11-12 (Revised Standard Version) 
Seek the LORD and His strength, seek His presence continually! Remember the wonderful works that He has done, the wonders He wrought, the judgments He uttered.






Romans 15:13 (Revised Standard Version)
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.